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How To Discover Your Purpose, with Lisa Sasevich

Dr Daniel Amen and Tana Amen BSN RN On The Brain Warrior's Way Podcast

Scientific studies have shown us that people who have purpose in their lives tend to live longer than those who don’t. Do you have meaning in your life? Or are you just floating through? In this episode of The Brain Warrior’s Way Podcast, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen are once again joined by “Meant for More” author Lisa Sasevich, who gives her methods for discovering and living one’s own unique purpose.

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Dr Daniel Amen:
Welcome to The Brain Warrior's Way Podcast. I'm Dr. Daniel Amen.
Tana Amen:
And I'm Tana Amen. In our podcast, we provide you with the tools you need to become a warrior for the health of your brain and body.
Dr Daniel Amen:
The Brain Warrior's Way podcast is brought to you by Amen Clinics where we have been transforming lives for 30 years using tools like brain SPECT imaging to personalize treatment to your brain. For more information, visit amenclinics.com.
Tana Amen:
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Dr Daniel Amen:
Welcome back. We're here with author Lisa Sasevich, author, coach, mentor, actually Tana's mentor, which she has just been so helpful.
Tana Amen:
This woman packs a room.
Dr Daniel Amen:
She teaches thousands of people, has a brand new book, Meant For More. You can actually download her brand new mini course at meantformoregift.com. So let's talk about practical ways people can really learn their purpose and what they're really meant for.
Lisa Sasevich:
I appreciate that. And I want to say I love what you said about when we are purposeful, we live longer. And I was thinking that, from our prior episode when I shared my mom passing away at 48. I think it's a great example because she was striving to find her purpose, but just never could find the space or had the mentorship or the inspiration to do that. So I've put together a series of things that everyone here can start to look at. They're already happening in your life, so it doesn't take any extra time. So even if you're busy, it'll just be a matter of starting to pay attention of what is your unique value. Sometimes we call it your million dollar value because we've literally had people be able to create a side hustle out of discovering their unique value and help people way more than they ever expected they could.
Lisa Sasevich:
So let me give you guys a few tips of where you can start looking in your life. This is one of my favorites. Ask yourself this question. Where is it that people always want to pick your brain? They've said to you so many times, "Hey Tana, can we meet at Starbucks? I just want to pick your brain about how you stay in such good shape." Right? "Daniel, can we meet at..." It's usually meet for lunch. If I could just have 20 minutes to pick your brain about how you've helped so many people all over the world. Every single one of us has a place, whether it's how we've enjoyed such a successful marriage or the opposite and how we're dating so successfully online, how we have such great communication with our team. I just had a woman I worked with who helped her team in high school get a special education program right through the school for his ADHD.
Lisa Sasevich:
It's called an IEP plan. She helped her own child, and then everyone wanted to pick her brain. So guess what? When we started to look, it turned out there was a unique value there and she's now been helping parents all over the United States for over 20 years. Do you know how many kids she has helped get special education programs who needed that extra help from the public school? I've had to go through it myself with my own child. And without her guidance, I would be lost. So we all have that. So that's one of the tips is where do people always want to pick your brain and just start to notice it, start to take notes, start a little file in your phone called my unique value and just start to pay attention.
Tana Amen:
That's so interesting.
Lisa Sasevich:
Now another tip or did you want to say anything about that? [crosstalk 00:04:13].
Tana Amen:
No, just all of a sudden I went, "Oh, wait. Wow. That's so interesting because it isn't the thing that I was thinking that I've done, that's interesting."
Lisa Sasevich:
Well, it is interesting.
Tana Amen:
It may not be the thing that you pay attention to the most. We don't notice it always.
Lisa Sasevich:
Yes. It is interesting because sometimes there is an additional thing being called for on you.
Tana Amen:
Right.
Lisa Sasevich:
And it's easy to miss it.
Tana Amen:
Yeah.
Lisa Sasevich:
But others are seeing it. They're seeing how you have great communication with your team or how you've helped people in this area that for some people who already maybe have a business, this can be an amazing extension of what they do that they didn't see.
Tana Amen:
Yeah.
Lisa Sasevich:
For others who are really just wanting to feel more purposeful, this can be a way that you can make a contribution beyond anything you've might have seen.
Tana Amen:
So just because you have a career in one thing doesn't mean you might be very purposeful in something else.
Lisa Sasevich:
Exactly. And sometimes you can, when you start to go down that road, you'll find that there's sort of an umbrella that ties them together even though they seem really different.
Tana Amen:
Yeah. Wow.
Lisa Sasevich:
Let me give you one more idea, that again, everybody can start to do right away. I love this one because you have to pay close attention. It's very counterintuitive. So this one is what is, it's a question, what is easy for you that baffles other people? You could say it's easy for you and it's hard for others.
Tana Amen:
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Lisa Sasevich:
Now, a lot of times, we don't notice this because to us, it's so easy for us. We don't think anybody would get value because it's the easiest thing for us to do. I'm a really great example. I'm kind of different in that I love making what I call my irresistible offer for my work. I love that when there's someone I can help making them an offer, that I could help them and giving them the chance to accept or decline. Now most people, we call this sales.
Tana Amen:
Terrifying.
Lisa Sasevich:
Most people would run for the hills. It's one of the four. There's death, taxes, speaking, and sales. And I'm just this odd person that believes that when we make our offer, it's one of the ways to be purposeful. So for why I have such a successful business, I mean, we've been honored by the Inc. 500 fastest growing privately held companies in the United States two years in a row. Number 20 in women owned businesses, the ladies usually enjoy knowing that. And I'm a work from home mom, right? The same goal that Tana had. I mean, I've done it all from home, to be with my kids. So when I started this business, I think one of the reasons that we did so well is that, that's an example that that was something that was easy for me, but alluded other people.
Tana Amen:
Yeah. By the way, those is the reasons I chose you.
Dr Daniel Amen:
Why? Why is it so hard for people? And we were talking off the air. I've been criticized by my colleagues of being self-promotional. And in my mind, if I don't tell you what I can do for you, well, one, you won't know. And then you'll get traditional psychiatric care, which I think is bad for many people. I mean, we're the only medical doctors who never look at the organ they treat. So if I don't say, "Look, we have a better way to do this, then you won't get help." But people have brutalized me, criticized me for doing that. And so part of it is you don't want to be diminished by other people.
Tana Amen:
For promoting yourself.
Dr Daniel Amen:
For promoting yourself.
Lisa Sasevich:
None of us want to feel pushy or salesy. And maybe that's something we can dive deeper into. I know we've got a few episodes. But I do want to bring up the point that when we talk about that thing that's easy for you but hard for others, this is the counterintuitive piece. So I just didn't want to leave anybody hanging on that. I always pay attention if speakers and teachers, if they finish their thought, and I have to give this to you because this is game changing. It's life changing. Here's the question. So we asked what is it that's easy for you and hard for others and we're all starting to talk about that thing. What I've seen is that people can actually be paid the most for that thing, which comes the easiest to them.
Lisa Sasevich:
And this is the counterintuitive piece that I just didn't want to not close the loop on. We are out there believing we have to work hard to create abundance for ourself and our family and to contribute to the world in a big way. But what if it's that thing actually is the easiest for you? In my case, sales comes easy to me so I get to help all these people with a purpose, get out there and make money doing what they love, right? And when you know, by the way, you know that you've touched this thing when you're helping someone and if they're paying you, you're thinking, "Am I really getting paid for this?" I remember the day the two of you came here and we got to all three work together on your business. I can't tell you how many times I thought, "Am I really getting paid for this?" Because for me, I'm sharing that thing that's so easy. But for you guys, light bulbs were going off.
Tana Amen:
Right.
Lisa Sasevich:
So I just wanted to make sure to toss that over. So all of you, think about that. What if you could have that?
Dr Daniel Amen:
So what are some other examples of that? So sales is one, that was easy for you.
Lisa Sasevich:
Well, you brought up the perfect word. I could not have prompted you better had I sent you notes. You said when you were talking about yourself, Daniel, that people go off and they do these other things, but you know there's a better way. Those were your exact words. And I pay a lot of attention to specific words as Tana knows. So here's another clue. And I'm going to actually give you guys a little worksheet, mini course and everything you can download so you can work on this more at home. But another clue is you are Mr. and Mrs. better way in this area. So I remember in one of my early relationships, he used to call me Mrs. better way because I'm very efficient. So whatever he would do, I always had a better way.
Tana Amen:
Right.
Lisa Sasevich:
And that was one of the ways I was actually getting the clue about my unique value. As Tana said, one of my ways that my unique value expresses itself is that my courses and my programs are super easy to follow.
Tana Amen:
So easy.
Lisa Sasevich:
They're super efficient, they don't take a lot of time, they get right to the point. So that was one part of my unique value showing itself. It's just that when we offer our unique value, our Mrs. or Ms., Mr. and Mrs. better way without being asked for it, it doesn't go very well.
Tana Amen:
Right.
Lisa Sasevich:
But when you make an offer and somebody says, "Yes, I would like to accept your offer, I would love your help with your better way." Then as is presenced by you to having such a successful business and such a beautiful reputation, people thank you for it. You become well known. You help people all over the world. So I loved that you used that term, Daniel, because yes, you are Mr. better way in this area, and it is a better way and you know it. And one of the things about that is it's how you love, it's how you give, it's how you are purposeful, your better way. It's not you trying to butt in or take over or as you were asking me the question earlier, being dominating or pushy or salesy, it's how you love. That's how you know it's your unique value.
Tana Amen:
Yeah. I think... And so what was interesting for me was the idea of your messaging, making it not pushy. And that was different. And so for me, it was sort of invisible, if you will, but yet doing it very kind, very respectful, very... You're embracing the other... Oh, sorry. You're embracing the other person. And so I really liked that. But the other thing that I really liked when I went through your process was I've been to a lot of great seminars. I've been to a lot of really great seminars where I get super excited because the information is just so amazing.
Tana Amen:
But I end up leaving overwhelmed at the end because there's so much of it, and then I don't know what to do. I'm like, "Ah," and I do nothing when I leave because there's just so much coming at you. What I really liked is there wasn't so much information coming at me when I left, I actually used all of it. And so that was what I really liked. It was just enough and it was simple enough that I could use it. But it was done in a way where it was so respectful of the other person. I didn't feel like it was, I'm going to go bash them over the head with what I'm using. Does that make sense?
Dr Daniel Amen:
Let's not create head injuries.
Tana Amen:
Right.
Dr Daniel Amen:
All right.
Lisa Sasevich:
We don't do that.
Dr Daniel Amen:
When we come back, we're going to talk about [crosstalk 00:00:13:10]-
Tana Amen:
Wait, the gift, what's it called?
Lisa Sasevich:
I just want to say all the stuff I just went through because I know we did a lot really fast. Taking that inventory, it's all available in a free mini course that I created for all of you. You can get it at meantformoregift.com. It'll ask you all the questions we just talked about plus give great examples, too. And you can do it from anywhere, it's digital. So you just login, put your name and email and it'll be right in your inbox for your convenience.
Tana Amen:
Awesome.
Dr Daniel Amen:
We'll be back.
Tana Amen:
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